Love yourself first

Life is simple. It’s all about love. Once you have understood this everything will become easier. Let me give you a few examples:

1. People who think life is about their career, well, that’s either them really loving their job or they just want to be admired and loved by others because of achieving something that others maybe didn’t.

2. People who think that life is about finding a partner and having a family… well, that case is self-explanatory I guess.

3. People who think that life us about religion, well that’s also love.

In the end it’s all about love. And everything bad happening in the world can be explained by lack of love. You might ask why life is so complicated then? Well, because in order to love someone you first habe to live yourself. Haha! And here comes the tricky part, what is self-love? How do I love myself? Does it have to do with being selfish? Well, the last question I can answer with a clear “no”. It’s not about being selfish because as I said above in order to be there for others, in order to love others… we need to love ourselves first.

There are many ways to epress self-love. One is taking care of yourself and your needs and putting yourself first. Many people feel bad about that but this is key. You have to take care of yourself. If you do you won’t blame others if they don’t take care of you. You have to take responsibility for your own life. Noone is responsible for your happiness and it’s noone’s fault if you’re unhappy, only yours.

The journey to self-love is not an easy one for many people. You have to take a deep look into yourself and your feelings and embrace them. They are all okay, you are okay! Stop blaming yourself for feelings that you shouldn’t have, for things you shouldn’t do, for things you shouldn’t have said. That’s all you and that’s okay. Love every aspect of your personality.

You feel stressed sometimes? Maybe at work or back home at your family? Well, that’s also a cause of lack of self-love because YOU let others stress you. The stress doesn’t come along itself, you invite it to your life. Stop it now! Take a deep breath and realize what you actually need in order not to be stressed. Just sit back and let things happen. Be slow once in a while and realize that the world around you also functions without you being stressed all the time. Things actually will work better.

I will try to come up with a more structured guide about self-love, this is only an introduction. But believe me loving yourself is the most important thing if you ever wanna be really happy. I am fortunate to have wonderful parents who taught me self-love from the very beginning of my life. They probably don’t know how they taught me this but they did. Well, it’s easy: they gave me so much love that I got the feeling that I’m really lovable and that I should love myself too. Many people seek this in their adult relationships but it doesn’t work that way. For me it worked because love was all I experienced as a little child and it just stayed inside of me. As a adult person you have to do this yourself. And yes, you can learn it! You are a beautiful person and deserve all the love in the world but you’ll only get it if you give this love first to yourself.