How confidence coaching became my passion

Since a while ago I started to offer “confidence coaching”. Well, I was doing confidence coaching also before but it was a part of the regular coaching package I usually offer. For the ones of you who don’t know yet: I regularly offer 10-session-packs which endure for around 3 months (ideally 1 session per week). There we set a goal and work on reaching it. This is the classic life coaching process.

A while ago I thought “what about people who don’t want a 3-months-coaching process?” Maybe someone doesn’t have enough time, money or just doesn’t feel like it. Obviously, if you want to reach meaningful results that last you have to invest more time but maybe some don’t want that. Maybe there are people who just want to get a little energy and motivation and then continue their path again. Maybe they will decide later for a coaching process or not.

As empathy is one of my strongest skills I was asking myself what I could give people if they invested only 1 hour? And this is how I came up with confidence coaching. This is how it works: you come to me and we talk about you, your current situation, your life. Maybe we haven’t even met before. While talking to you I ask you some questions to get to know you a little better and whenever I realize that there is something special about you, something that makes you unique, I tell you. In this process I fully trust my feelings and just tell you what I feel makes you special, what I feel you can be proud of, what I feel makes you great.

Before offering this service I tested it with a couple of volunteers and as I was hoping it worked perfects. I got such a nice feedback from all of the testimonials. They said I saw sides of them they had forgotten or never thought about, that I gave them energy, that they were more happy after the session then before and so on.

The positive side effect is that I also benefit from these sessions as I love to see my clients’ eyes shine. And I just love telling people how great they are. I even sometimes compliment people on the streets. If I see something great about a person I can bearly keep it from myself. Why should I?

Confidence is a topic that I have been thinking about my whole life as I’ve always been very self-confident. When I was younger I was thinking a lot about the reason why I was more confident than most of my friends, even in puberty. Then I figured out the reason: because of my parents. I am very fortunate to have great loving parents and what also makes them special is that they gave very different gifts to me. On the one hand my father was telling me from when I was very small that I am a princess, the greatest girl in the word and that noone was better than me. Now imagine a 3-year-old with these beliefs. Of course it cost me some troubles in kindergarten and especially in primary school as I was really convinces of what my dad said but never mind… And on the other hand my mother (who is a little lion herself) told me to always defend myself, no matter if by words or (what tends to happen in kindergarten and primary school) by hands, e.g. punching back.

Maybe psychologists would critisize the way I was brought up but these to people made me become the strong person I am today. And the things they taught me are saved in my brain forever. And I want others to feel confident to, to be happy with what they are, to love themselves. This is how confidence coaching became my passion.