Haters gonna hate

I actually wanted to set a title containing words like jealousy or envy but then I thought I’d use a more “common” term.

For those of you who don’t know this phrase, that’s what I found on the internet: ‘Haters gonna hate’ is an expression of personal pride and individuality. It means ‘I’m just going to ignore the cruel and hateful comments of other people’ (Source: http://netforbeginners.about.com/)

No idea if it relates to what I’m about to write about, so you can judge for yourself. Here we go…

I want to talk to you about jealousy, especially about jealousy amongst girls as this is something I’ve been observing a lot which makes me sad and also frustrated.

Let me give you a few examples:

1. Unfortunately many girls once they see someone beautiful look for something that is wrong with them and start gossiping. Why can’t they just be happy for them or approach them and ask them where they bought the beautiful dress?

2. A girl is in a really happy relationship and her “friends” just can’t be happy for her and tell her that she has changed or complain that she doesn’t have enough time for them. Well, the ones that are actually happy for her will try to become friends with her boyfriend and that will make their friendship even better.

3. A girl does a lot of sports, has a healthy diet and so on and others just tell her that she should calm down and why she is caring so much just because they don’t want her to have a better shape than them.

It’s sad… I believe (and many psychologists also do) that the reason for jealousy is lack of self-love. But lack of self-love will never be cured by gossiping, insulting or hurting others. You got to work on yourself. Unfortunately people who are like that rarely open up for self-improvement. They think they are good as they are and that everybody else is wrong.

Jealousy won’t make you happy. In fact it’s like a disease that eats up it’s host from inside and all that lasts is hate and insecurity. So if you see that you tend to be like I described above try to stop it. It will destroy you and everyone that is surrounding you.

And to all the girls who have to suffer from jealous people… try to keep them as far away from you as you can. Realize when someone is like that and run away from them. They are not right, they don’t want to help you and they are not your friends.

I for my part also sometimes struggle because of weird comments from others that come out of nowhere but you got to stand above it, ignore it and move on. Always tell yourself the reason why someone is doing this, it’s no excuse at all but once you understand it it’s easier to distance yourself from those people. I still believe in girl power, I often compliment other girls and I am happy if others reach their goals. And I believe if you have this kind of positive attitude you will always attract good things to your life.