I don’t care about how people actually are

A friend has a bad day and reacts aggressively towards you. You ignore it or try to resolve their issue with them.

We’ve all been there, we all know this situation. It’s perfectly fine to be this kind of caring friend who tries to support the people surrounding them. To be clear I’m not talking about people who are sad and need support because of that, I’m talking specifically about people who suppress their feelings and in the end show them in a passive aggressive way.

It’s okay if this happens once or twice but what if you have people around you who behave most of the time this way? Are you supposed to accept that and care for them? Yeah, well… they don’t mean it. They are in a difficult situation, have trouble with their partner, their job, … BULLSHIT! Sorry, but who cares?

How long are you supposed to care? How long are you supposed to put their feelings above yours? How long are you supposed to ignore their wrong behavior? How long are you supposed to stand them?

Well, and this is the question I want you to ask yourself today. Do you have people like that around you? Do they impact you? Do they play an important role in your life? Do you suffer because of their behavior?

I don’t know why society keeps on telling us that we have to understand everyone and accept everyone’s behavior. If someone treats you in a bad way and you get to know later that they are currently in a difficult situation, does that actually help you? Does it make you feel better? You maybe understand them but it won’t make things better for you.

To my mind we’re all adults by now… or at least we should be. I am responsible for my behavior, everyone is. It is so cheap to always be the poor one that is misunderstood by everyone. This attitude doesn’t help anyone.

You would probably guess right that I had people like that in my life. I am in fact caring, nice, supporting and all that shit. But the price you pay to be that way is too high. So I reset my priorities (see also: Define your priorities) and changed myself, my friends, everything. Because I don’t care about how people actually are. If someone treats me right, I am willing to treat them even better and do everything for them but I won’t take anybody’s shit. Life is too short for that. I am happy to have reliable friends and my family that is always there for me. I don’t need anything more and I want to give all my energy to the ones who deserve it.