What if you find the one?

Finding love is not an easy thing and I actually I don’t believe that you can actively search for it but I do believe that you can create the conditions to welcome love into your life.

I believe that many people are in the wrong relationships. They are unhappy for whatever reason, in the end they just don’t fit. Of course it’s good to fight for love and give your best to make it work but sometimes it doesn’t and then you have to quit. Sounds easy, huh? Well, we all know it isn’t. Unfortunately we not only fall in love with the ones that fit but also with the ones that don’t fit, don’t treat s right, are moody, selfish or whatever.

And here comes the problem: what happens if you don’t quit? You stay in a relationship with the WRONG person and there is no space for any right person that would possibly try to enter your life. You miss changes, you become frustrated and the worst thing is: the longer the relationship lasts the longer the recovery lasts. It’s a vicious cycle in the end. There are hundreds of reasons to stay but one reason why you shouldn’t: he/she is not the one and you are wasting your time. Of course we learn but you don’t have to learn forever. You deserve to be happy and to be in the relationship you’ve always dreamed about. Of course you could say that nobody is perfect blabla… but at least there is one person out there you perfectly fits with your imperfections and together you will be perfect.

It breaks my heart when I see couples who are wasting their time with each other. They are happy at times but mostly full of doubts. And then they keep on fighting, look for reasons why it doesn’t work etc. Sometimes the reason is obvious but still there are so many feelings that keep you from quitting.

I tell you one thing: it won’t be easy. Never. It’s impossible to have a happy break-up when you are in love. It will never be easy but it will be the right choice and you will only realize when you meet the person that makes you forget about all your past relationships. You will laugh about all the weirdos you were spending your time with before.

A friend asked me how to know if you’re in the wrong relationship and what about people who always search for better options. For me the answer to that is easy: you have to feel it. If you’re really honest to yourself you will always know if you’re together with the right one or not. People have forgotten how to feel themselves but this is a way bigger topic that I will handle in another blog post sooner or later.

Nobody wants to be alone but stop being afraid of it. You don’t want to meet THE ONE when you’re still in a relationship with someone else or still recovering. You want to be absolutely free and ready to have the most beautiful relationship. Give yourself and that person the space they need to become a part of your life. Make yourself free from everything that makes you unhappy and take responsibility over your life. It’s your choice but you only live once and you’re also only young once. Make it count!