Be irreplaceable

Some people would say that is a given fact since everybody is unique in their own way, others would say that everybody is replacable… well, and I say that you choose this yourself.

Let me give you an example. A girl I know was in a relationship with a guy that was always surrounded by tons of girls and nobody would believe that he would be faithful. Well, she believed it and he somehow gave her the feeling that she is the only one. Here again some people would say that she was naive, others would say that it’s good to have full trust in a relationship.

Anyway, in the end she finally found out that he was cheating on her and they broke up. She showed me a picture of the girl and the other day I saw him together with the new girl on a party presenting her as his new girlfriend. Probably only a few days after they broke up. What if she had forgiven him? Oh, then it would have still been her with him on the party. And would it make any difference for him? NO!

Sorry girls, but it’s your own fault if you choose guys like that to be your “boyfriend”. They are everybody’s boyfriend. Of course this works also the other way around, no doubt about that.

How could that happen you would ask? Well, of course he is good looking and super handsome. Many people tend to close their eyes and hope for the best but believe me a simple look on his Facebook profile would be enough to predict that this would be the end of the story.

Anyway, coming back to the title of this blog post: be irreplaceable! No matter how you do it, make sure to surround yourself with people who ONLY want to hang out with you because they appreciate you, your thoughts, your appearance, your soul. And if you weren’t there they would be in big trouble because no one understands them the way you do. They would miss you, they would give everything to bring you back to their life. Not because they are lonely but because they really want to be with you.

Of course this also applies for friends, in fact relationships and friendships are quite similar and I think this is a good thing but I will talk about this another time.

For now I just ask you to follow my advice and look around you to find out if the people you hang out with are really worth it. Are you irreplaceable for them? If not, make a change, change the relationship, the people, yourself or whatever but don’t just wait until you get replaced. It hurts as hell and you yourself are responsible to prevent yourself from suffering, especially when it come to suffering because of people that don’t appreciate you. Love yourself and find people who love you the way you deserve it. And believe me, you deserve all the love in the world!

Best of luck to all of you!